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Open letter to readers: Today and tomorrow

By Lynda Waddington | 11.17.11

Wednesday was a difficult day for The American Independent News Network, which is the larger entity that operates The Iowa Independent. Our chief executive and founder announced two of our sister sites would close and their content would be moved to The American Independent.

ACS lockout continues; plan emerges to repeal sugar protections

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By Virginia Chamlee | 11.15.11

A recently introduced bill could have far-reaching impact on the U.S. sugar industry, including American Crystal Sugar, a farmer-owned cooperative that locked out 1,300 Midwest workers on Aug. 1.

Cain campaign: Farmers know more about regulations than EPA

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By Andrew Duffelmeyer | 11.15.11

The chairman for Herman Cain’s Iowa effort says the campaign “relied more on the word of farmers than Washington regulators” in deciding to run an ad containing claims the Environmental Protection Agency says are false.

Mathis wins, Democrats maintain Senate control

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By Lynda Waddington | 11.08.11

The Iowa Senate will remain under the control of a slim 26-25 Democratic majority when it reconvenes in January 2012.

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PR: Nation should work to address veterans’ challenges

By Press Release Reprints | 11.11.11

BRUCE BRALEY RELEASE — As US involvement in Iraq and Afghanistan ends, it’s more important than ever that our nation works to address the challenges faced by the men and women who fought there.

PR: Honoring veterans, help in hiring

By Press Release Reprints | 11.11.11

CHUCK GRASSLEY RELEASE — A difficult job market is challenging the soldiers, sailors and airmen who have protected America’s interests by serving in the Armed Forces.

PR: In honor of America’s veterans

By Press Release Reprints | 11.11.11

TOM LATHAM RELEASE — No one has done more to secure the freedom enjoyed by every single American than our veterans and those currently serving in the armed services.

PR: Honoring and supporting our nation’s veterans

By Press Release Reprints | 11.11.11

DAVE LOEBSACK RELEASE — Veterans Day is an opportunity to reflect on the service of generations of veterans and to honor the sacrifices they and their families have made so that we may live in peace and freedom here at home.

‘Juno’: The Most Effective Anti-Abortion Movie Ever Made

By Douglas Burns | 01.28.08 | 12:10 pm

(Commentary) The girl behind the fast-food name tag, remarkably, had an opinion to go with my change.

And, yes, it was one I deserved to hear after asking an impertinent question — albeit an obvious one.

Before releasing the greasy food into my hands, this teenager complained about the toils of being a single mother, with two jobs. It’s all very exhausting, you see, she told me.

“Well,” I said, being more than a little annoyed at her presumption of familiarity with me. “Why didn’t you put your baby up for adoption and head to college?”

“Oh my God,” she said. “I would never do that to my child.”

I smiled and left, not letting her know that I was adopted, that “that” had been done to (for) me. Her comment didn’t offend me in a personal sense. How can one take any affront with a freckled fry peddler who likely moves her mouth when she reads, if she reads?

But her comment was freighted with a bias, full of some of the ugly stigma about adoption. With all the marches associated with the anniversary of Roe v Wade recently (one of which I watched on EWTN the other night), the forgotten option is adoption.

Instead of just taking sides in the culture war over abortion we need more people to find the common ground of adoption.

I’m not talking about a few throwaway lines in a right-to-lifer’s family values speech or some extra federal funding in your favorite liberal’s legislation.

I’m talking about a complete image makeover.

Every teenage girl in America who finds out she is pregnant should think first of adoption.

With the popularity of the fantastic movie, “Juno,” which is now in theaters and Oscar-nominated, that may just happen. It gives adoption the most important endorsement in the teen community: the cache of cool. Written by a former Minnesota stripper, Diablo Cody, the movie chronicles the pregnancy of a whip-smart 16-year-old girl who becomes pregnant after her first time.

The title character, Juno, played brilliantly by Ellen Page (who is sure to be something of a cult hero among teenage girls who’d love to have that lashing tongue and devastatingly funny dialogue) thinks first of having an abortion.

“Hi, I’m calling to procure a hasty abortion,” Juno says as she makes her first inquiry over the phone.

But a classmate who is a lone protester outside of the women’s clinic persuades Juno that the living being in her womb is just that by telling her about a child’s congenital fingernail development.

So Juno decides to put her child up for adoption.

And what I loved about the character was her clarity with this, an understanding of something most people miss in most things in life: you can’t have it both ways.

She wanted no visitation, no future with the child. She was going to give the baby his greatest gift — life — and then leave the parents and child to be. No tearful “Oprah” reunions. No double-deckering the poor kid with a confusing parental structure. None of the sideshows that make adoption look ridiculous, full of future drama for the biological mother. None of the deterring factors that make abortion seem like the clean-break, fast-break solution. She just wants to make the right choice and move on with her life, allowing her baby to do the same.

“Can’t we just like kick this old school?” Juno says. “You know, like I stick the baby in a basket, send it your way, like Moses and the reeds?”

We can only hope that this smart movie gives more of our young people that Biblical wisdom.

Comments

  • singlemomof3

    This time you have gone WAY TOO FAR Mr. Burns, I was going to address you as Doug, but I didn’t want to make you “a little annoyed at my presumption of familiarity with you.” I have been offended by many of your assinine articles, however have never felt compelled to write until now. I am a divorced mother of three that would have kicked you in your jewels if you had asked why I didn’t give my kids up for adoption. I am proud to say that two of my children are now in college while the other one is on the honor roll and attends the middle school. I raised my children with NO help from their dad, and find it repulsive that you think you are so above everyone else that you can sleep at night after writing this article. Maybe she thought she knew you from your column in the paper. Perhaps she even felt “honored” to be talking to you. One thing I am sure of is she never thought you would use her to show all of your mommy’s readers that you are a BULLY. I seriously don’t think you would have that job without your mom. I guess it is a good thing your real mom gave you up…otherwise you might be a freckled fry peddler yourself. Why don’t you go have another smoke and find someone your own size to pick on? Oh and just so you know…I didn’t even have to use spellcheck to write this!!

  • Mommy’s Lil “Accident”

    this article deserves more from Burns… and the rest of us too “She wanted no visitation, no future with the child. She was going to give the baby his greatest gift — life — and then leave the parents and child to be.”

    I am willing to look past the insolent tone of Burn’s opening statements, especially in view of his up-front manner of discussing his own adopted status.

    I am willing to bet no one who has posted a comment is adopted or has adopted a child.

    Not to labor this point at Mr Burns expense, but he was given away by his biological mother. 

    That rejection usually leaves tremendous scars, whether even the transparent Mr Burns can consciously admit it or not.

    I was actually talking with a friend about his adopted status and he said that as an adopted son with a loving family, he still bears great resentment and fear of rejection.  It affects his EVERY relationship.

    He said he is sensitive to teasing even today (he’s 37) because he thinks it signals a rejection of some sort.

    I’ll cut Doug a break and accept that when he denies being offended it might just be a tough guy act.

    Not that there is anything wrong with acting tough- it’s a coping mechanism he’s (I almost said “adopted) probably used to great success in the past.

    Best of luck to Mr. Burns and others who may need to show him a little love and understanding. (is that too much to ask?)

    PS
    I was born when my parents used the inadvisable “rhythm” method, my sister was born the same way, they finally used a realistic birth control method and took their lumps in catholic confessions

  • formerfreckledrypeddler

    I find it interesting that Mr. Burns wants to spread the gospel in so many of his columns,,,

    “Biblical wisdom”???  Give me a break!

    but this one gets me even more:

    “His greatest gift — life” 

    [holding back refelxive gagging]

  • Tamra

    Are all single mothers morons? As a single mother who can read without moving my lips I wonder what kid of relationship you have with all women. 

    If we aren’t June Cleavering it, cleaning house and preparing dinner in our pearls and heels, while waitng for our husbands to come home and lead our family, are we only working for minimum wage, popping bubble-gum bubbles and serving men a $.99 heart attack? Are those our only choices in life?

    With family and community support I was able to raise my child, go to school and work to pay my bills.  Was I the execption to your incredibly narrow-minded rule? Or could it be that women are capable of much more than you give us credit for?

  • IA_Seth

    Competition for Limbaugh Disgusting.  I don’t really know how else to characterize this condescending, elitist, piece.  I come here to read rational, thought-filled, opinions.  This is neither.

    Yes, adoption can be a great solution for many people.  Abortion can be as well.  Having, raising, and struggling through parenting a child while working jobs that may require service to arrogant asses is probably not the easiest, but it’s also an option, and it’s one the majority of people choose, and those that choose that route shouldn’t have to deal with strangers judging their decisions anymore than those that choose to adopt or abort. 

    You say:

    “But her comment was freighted with a bias, full of some of the ugly stigma about adoption. With all the marches associated with the anniversary of Roe v Wade recently (one of which I watched on EWTN the other night), the forgotten option is adoption”

    Really?  Her comment was “Oh my God.  I would never do that to my child.”  That may seem biased, but it’s the same bias any mother would have when a complete stranger tells them that they should have put their baby up for adoption and head to college.  Try telling a stranger that perhaps they should have aborted their child.  What sort of reaction do you think you’d get?  Did you honestly expect her to say `Yeah, you know what I should have”?  What sort of judgments would you have made about her then?

    You complain about her presumption of familiarity with YOU and then you make judgments about HER intelligence and parenting abilities based on her job, her looks, and the fact that she tried to find empathy in a stranger.  It’s more than a little hypocritical and very telling about you personally.

    Next time perhaps you can get your point across without making yourself look foolish, or judging a complete stranger because of YOUR biases as an adopted child.

  • Anonymous

    Just so you know

    I didn’t even make it below the fold. I couldn’t. Never have I read anything you’ve written and been so uniquely disgusted by it.

    Your castigation leaves little doubt that you hold this girl in contempt. From her job at the fast food joint you chose to frequent to her audacity of making conversation with someone so obviously above her station, your words have made it clear that she is not deserving of your time, much less your respect. Given the hot-button subject matter and your personal proximity to it, however, I was willing to continue reading in hope of discovering some ill-fitted point… until I read this line:

    How can one take any affront with a freckled fry peddler who likely moves her mouth when she reads, if she reads?

    Although it rarely works for playground bullies, here’s hoping that this attempt at belittling others leaves you feeling better about yourself.

  • desmoinesdem

    many experts favor open adoption if feasible, as an option that leaves children with fewer unanswered questions about their biological heritage and why they were put up for adoption.

  • ..

    .. I thoroughly enjoy reading your articles Mr. Burns, and enjoyed 99% of this one.. however I found the fact that you would openly make fun of a pregnant teen who was not rude, nor completely wrong to be embarrassing.. I cringed reading it.. please go back to writing witty, interesting articles and quit picking on teenage girls

  • Anonymous

    Just so you know

    I didn't even make it below the fold. I couldn't. Never have I read anything you've written and been so uniquely disgusted by it.

    Your castigation leaves little doubt that you hold this girl in contempt. From her job at the fast food joint you chose to frequent to her audacity of making conversation with someone so obviously above her station, your words have made it clear that she is not deserving of your time, much less your respect. Given the hot-button subject matter and your personal proximity to it, however, I was willing to continue reading in hope of discovering some ill-fitted point… until I read this line:

    How can one take any affront with a freckled fry peddler who likely moves her mouth when she reads, if she reads?

    Although it rarely works for playground bullies, here's hoping that this attempt at belittling others leaves you feeling better about yourself.

  • desmoinesdem

    many experts favor open adoption if feasible, as an option that leaves children with fewer unanswered questions about their biological heritage and why they were put up for adoption.

  • ..

    .. I thoroughly enjoy reading your articles Mr. Burns, and enjoyed 99% of this one.. however I found the fact that you would openly make fun of a pregnant teen who was not rude, nor completely wrong to be embarrassing.. I cringed reading it.. please go back to writing witty, interesting articles and quit picking on teenage girls

  • formerfreckledrypeddler

    I find it interesting that Mr. Burns wants to spread the gospel in so many of his columns,,,

    “Biblical wisdom”???  Give me a break!

    but this one gets me even more:

    “His greatest gift — life” 

    [holding back refelxive gagging]

  • Tamra

    Are all single mothers morons? As a single mother who can read without moving my lips I wonder what kid of relationship you have with all women. 

    If we aren't June Cleavering it, cleaning house and preparing dinner in our pearls and heels, while waitng for our husbands to come home and lead our family, are we only working for minimum wage, popping bubble-gum bubbles and serving men a $.99 heart attack? Are those our only choices in life?

    With family and community support I was able to raise my child, go to school and work to pay my bills.  Was I the execption to your incredibly narrow-minded rule? Or could it be that women are capable of much more than you give us credit for?

  • IA_Seth

    Competition for Limbaugh Disgusting.  I don't really know how else to characterize this condescending, elitist, piece.  I come here to read rational, thought-filled, opinions.  This is neither.

    Yes, adoption can be a great solution for many people.  Abortion can be as well.  Having, raising, and struggling through parenting a child while working jobs that may require service to arrogant asses is probably not the easiest, but it's also an option, and it's one the majority of people choose, and those that choose that route shouldn't have to deal with strangers judging their decisions anymore than those that choose to adopt or abort. 

    You say:

    “But her comment was freighted with a bias, full of some of the ugly stigma about adoption. With all the marches associated with the anniversary of Roe v Wade recently (one of which I watched on EWTN the other night), the forgotten option is adoption”

    Really?  Her comment was “Oh my God.  I would never do that to my child.”  That may seem biased, but it's the same bias any mother would have when a complete stranger tells them that they should have put their baby up for adoption and head to college.  Try telling a stranger that perhaps they should have aborted their child.  What sort of reaction do you think you'd get?  Did you honestly expect her to say `Yeah, you know what I should have”?  What sort of judgments would you have made about her then?

    You complain about her presumption of familiarity with YOU and then you make judgments about HER intelligence and parenting abilities based on her job, her looks, and the fact that she tried to find empathy in a stranger.  It's more than a little hypocritical and very telling about you personally.

    Next time perhaps you can get your point across without making yourself look foolish, or judging a complete stranger because of YOUR biases as an adopted child.

  • Mommy’s Lil “Accident”

    this article deserves more from Burns… and the rest of us too “She wanted no visitation, no future with the child. She was going to give the baby his greatest gift — life — and then leave the parents and child to be.”

    I am willing to look past the insolent tone of Burn's opening statements, especially in view of his up-front manner of discussing his own adopted status.

    I am willing to bet no one who has posted a comment is adopted or has adopted a child.

    Not to labor this point at Mr Burns expense, but he was given away by his biological mother. 

    That rejection usually leaves tremendous scars, whether even the transparent Mr Burns can consciously admit it or not.

    I was actually talking with a friend about his adopted status and he said that as an adopted son with a loving family, he still bears great resentment and fear of rejection.  It affects his EVERY relationship.

    He said he is sensitive to teasing even today (he's 37) because he thinks it signals a rejection of some sort.

    I'll cut Doug a break and accept that when he denies being offended it might just be a tough guy act.

    Not that there is anything wrong with acting tough- it's a coping mechanism he's (I almost said “adopted) probably used to great success in the past.

    Best of luck to Mr. Burns and others who may need to show him a little love and understanding. (is that too much to ask?)

    PS

    I was born when my parents used the inadvisable “rhythm” method, my sister was born the same way, they finally used a realistic birth control method and took their lumps in catholic confessions

  • singlemomof3

    This time you have gone WAY TOO FAR Mr. Burns, I was going to address you as Doug, but I didn't want to make you “a little annoyed at my presumption of familiarity with you.” I have been offended by many of your assinine articles, however have never felt compelled to write until now. I am a divorced mother of three that would have kicked you in your jewels if you had asked why I didn't give my kids up for adoption. I am proud to say that two of my children are now in college while the other one is on the honor roll and attends the middle school. I raised my children with NO help from their dad, and find it repulsive that you think you are so above everyone else that you can sleep at night after writing this article. Maybe she thought she knew you from your column in the paper. Perhaps she even felt “honored” to be talking to you. One thing I am sure of is she never thought you would use her to show all of your mommy's readers that you are a BULLY. I seriously don't think you would have that job without your mom. I guess it is a good thing your real mom gave you up…otherwise you might be a freckled fry peddler yourself. Why don't you go have another smoke and find someone your own size to pick on? Oh and just so you know…I didn't even have to use spellcheck to write this!!

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